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Introduction: The Language Beneath the Story We speak scripts we didn’t write—phrases that seem ordinary but quietly surrender our power. “She embarrassed me.” “This project stressed me out.” “My partner makes me anxious.” These don’t just describe how we feel; they testify to a belief: that we are at the mercy of others. This isn’t […]

Our marriage is much like living within a Bubble Our unique Bubble has boundaries to keep and agreements to honor. We know that relationships are often imperfect and are liable to experience breakdowns. Throughout our work together, we will distinguish the following. There are ways of being that DObelong inside our Bubble. There are ways […]

Of Boundaries and Bubbles We sometimes refer to “boundaries” when discussing marriages and relationships.  We speak of our dissatisfaction with our relationships from home to work. We talk about” lines crossed” and complain about the emotional, financial, or other damages we’ve suffered when “lines” have been crossed. I am not confident that most people know […]

Why is it important to Appreciate and Acknowledge One Another? As a child, I remember hearing adults and the people around me say, “You’re welcome,” far more frequently than we do today. I was raised to thank others whenever they did something on my behalf. I was expected to acknowledge them with “Thank you.” They […]

Anger, the bad, the good, and the ugly The bad: Anger is prevalent in our lives. Anger is everywhere: at work with clients, customers, managers, and coworkers.  Daily, we are confronted by anger toward ourselves, others, or those around us. Occasionally, we become angry at ourselves when things do not work out as we had […]

When we recognize that anger is a symptom, not a cause. We can then ask “What is our anger a symptom of?” Anger arises when there’s a gap between what you want and what you have. It is hell living in the gap. Anger costs you your intelligence, your flexibility, your creativity, your freedom, your […]

Two magical words to facilitate effective communication. We get to start our sentences with “Yes” and.” “Yes,” plus an “And” reliably opens up lines of connection and communication. There are four immediate benefits. Someone says something to you. You respond with “Yes and.”“Yes, and tell me more.” “Yes, and when’s a good time for us […]

Recipe for domestic harmony. The following is a recipe for peace, establishing connection with mutual honor and respect, offering access to effective interpersonal relationships, communication, peace, and domestic harmony. The power and magic of “Yes and.” A sentence that begins with “Yes, and” is far stronger than the same sentence without “Yes, and.” In just […]

The Power of Commerce and Communication Productivity, profitability, performance, career satisfaction, employee retention, and corporation morale – all thrive when interpersonal relationships and communication skills are practiced at every level in any organization. As company morale, job, and career satisfaction rise, stress fades, turnover shrinks, and employee health-related issues all fade. It is tragically expensive […]

Blessings, Love, and Transformation Blessings require an acknowledgment to be complete and for the grace energy of blessing to be received and experienced. Responding with “Bless you” when we hear someone sneeze is like this. We can feel something is missing when we do not thank someone for their blessing. It’s as if there is […]

We don’t “Have to” live. We, you and I, “Get to live.” I invite us to consider the phrases “Need to,” “Have to,” like “Must,” and “Should” all occur in the world of obligation and life given by circumstances. There’s a concealed “or else.” “I have to. I need to. I should go shopping.” Alternatively, […]

The Power of “Yes, and.” Any sentence that begins with “Yes and” is stronger than the same sentence without “Yes and.” “Yes and” indicates that: I have heard and received what you have said. We’ve moved from reacting to responding Communication continues. Feel the difference when we say: “Let’s talk.” as compared with “Yes and […]

Accessing the Power of “Thank you” and “You’re welcome.” We maximize the benefits of their or our “Thank you” when we say “You’re welcome.” This may seem peculiar. I learned this while watching couples as I coached them to express gratitude, acknowledgment, and appreciation. The energy, smiles, and connection were established, and even giggles manifested—only […]

Human nature, blessing, love, and transformation All blessings require acknowledgment to be complete and for the grace energy of blessing to be transferred and experienced. Responding with “Bless you” when we hear someone sneezes is like this. When we do not thank someone for their blessing when we’ve sneezed, presences an incomplete life-loop. It’s almost […]

Marriage, personality, and Integrity Many of us are married to partners who have a significant, high relationship, a clear attachment to planning and achieving results. Your partner tends to pay attention to knowing as much as possible beforehand, such that they can produce their and your intended results by the time declared. They prefer to […]

Four elements that will sink any relationship or marriage: 1) Poor communication and interpersonal relationship skills.2) Lack of awareness of each other’s Love Languages and how to speak them.3) Lack of awareness of personality differences, challenges, and opportunities.4) Behavioral distortions left over from childhood experiences and previous relationships. At Marriage and Communication Coaching, we resolve […]

Infidelity: Why and How It’s hard to think when infidelity darkens your marriage. You feel deeply betrayed. Trust is broken, and forgiveness seems impossible. I offer that infidelity is a symptom, not a cause. Then, the relevant question then is “a symptom of what?” At Marriage and Communication,We do the work to uncover the answers. […]

Guilt or Accountability? Shame or Responsibility? Are not life sentences. We have a choice Martin Heidegger is quoted as saying, “Language is the House of Being..” We have a choice of which House of Being gives us Being. We get to move to an address that offers us access to new life. When we’ve moved […]

When is it best to say, “I’m sorry?” Or is it best to say “I apologize?” Degrees of relatedness are important. When one is at a funeral with a lower degree of relatedness, expressing “I am sorry for your loss” is an appropriate expression of empathy for their loss. Apology is critical to the future […]

Where does cheating and infidelity come from? It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause. Then the question becomes “a symptom of what?” As a Marriage and Communication Coach, there are four sources of cheating and infidelity: 1. Lack of effective communication and relationship skills. 2. Lack of self and […]

Marriages and integrity Many of us are married to partners who have a significant, high relationship to planning and results. Your partner tends to pay attention to knowing as much as possible beforehand, such that they can produce their and your intended results by the time declared. They prefer to get things done as soon […]

Marriages without communication and relationship skills. What occurs to marriages when the individuals within marriages simply don’t know how to communicate effectively? They’ve never been exposed to good communication and relationship skills. Social media, television programming, books, and movies rarely provide good quality relationship guidance. Their awareness of relationship skills comes from what their parents […]

Calling all parents! Our goal is to live as a “Get to” parent who, by living a “Get to” life. raises “Get to” children who become “Get to” adults. Many of us live lives of obligation driven by an “or else” relationship with our circumstances. We have to, “or else,” we need to, “or else,” […]

How to keep your marriage and family “Bubble” thriving, vital, and alive Your marriage, you, your partner , and your children all exist within a unique marriage and family, “Bubble.” There are behaviors that DO belong to your marriage’s Bbubble: i.e., listening, sharing, expressing emotions, intimacy, safety, support, kindness, love, mutual honor, and respect. There […]

The power of “Yes, and.” Beginning our sentences with“Yes and” will make the differencein any communication. “Yes” indicates “I heard you.” We instantly shift from reacting to responding. “Yes, and” provides us a moment to pause, engage our intelligence, reflect, and then choose our next words, determining the future of our relationship. “Yes, and…”At home: […]